tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16570054.post8683982604953822438..comments2023-07-03T03:06:44.869-07:00Comments on Little Dragon Fruit: MusingSamanthahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04112717691155332450noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16570054.post-12453655517715379232008-01-25T10:22:00.000-08:002008-01-25T10:22:00.000-08:00Thank you, Sarah. So true, so true.smooches,SamThank you, Sarah. So true, so true.<BR/><BR/>smooches,<BR/>SamSamanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04112717691155332450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16570054.post-14078222329826095602008-01-25T10:09:00.000-08:002008-01-25T10:09:00.000-08:00And I have chosen not to have any children. Does ...And I have chosen not to have any children. Does that make me weak? A bad person? Immoral? My answer is d) none of the above. I love children, I love reading your blog about children. I love my nieces and nephews so much that I will take them (and have taken them) into my household any time they are in need--without question. But I do not want children of my own. Being a lesbian makes that Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16570054.post-60067207439702395302008-01-22T16:15:00.000-08:002008-01-22T16:15:00.000-08:00Laura, we will get that cup of joe before long, I ...Laura, we will get that cup of joe before long, I am determined! Let's chat on the phone very soon.<BR/><BR/>Tee, you little rascal you. What can I say but..."LA LA LA! UNCLE <...>!"Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04112717691155332450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16570054.post-12671593276508353832008-01-22T13:02:00.000-08:002008-01-22T13:02:00.000-08:00Sam, I can't imagine a more perfect family than yo...Sam, I can't imagine a more perfect family than you, David, & J. Dust. Can't imagine it.<BR/><BR/>Nope. Y'all are exemplary of my concept of "perfect family."<BR/><BR/>xoxox,<BR/>TeeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16570054.post-44412202490144543752008-01-22T11:36:00.000-08:002008-01-22T11:36:00.000-08:00I miss you guys too, Sam! I got all teary reading...I miss you guys too, Sam! I got all teary reading this post, as it not only touched a nerve but made me wish terribly that we lived in the same place so I had someone to talk to over a cup of joe about this who really understood, I mean really. Even my closest most well-intentioned friends and family members can't begin to fathom the path we've been down. I think you can.<BR/><BR/>xo,<BR/>LauraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16570054.post-63222158761187789532008-01-22T09:38:00.000-08:002008-01-22T09:38:00.000-08:00Laura, it's so awesome of you to check in--your th...Laura, it's so awesome of you to check in--your thoughts are beautiful (and so is your daughter! MAN! :)) I miss you guys!<BR/><BR/>Jennifer, I got a little teary when you said that about the three faces kissing. :)Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04112717691155332450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16570054.post-23364562465483789972008-01-22T09:34:00.000-08:002008-01-22T09:34:00.000-08:00Ah, that would be, one lucky girl to be with you a...Ah, that would be, one lucky girl to be with you and David. :-)<BR/><BR/>See, I am losing a few more brain cells every day....<BR/><BR/>xo, <BR/>LauraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16570054.post-66458465913482249832008-01-22T09:31:00.000-08:002008-01-22T09:31:00.000-08:00Sam, I could really relate to this post, as so man...Sam, I could really relate to this post, as so many of the same questions have been going through my mind. It's so hard to sort through when nothing has gone as planned. I was supposed to have two school-age biological children by now - HA! What happened? But here I am loving my baby to pieces, with my creaky knees and wrinkles and all. It's hard to let go of what you always assumed would Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16570054.post-45298859114023157252008-01-21T11:38:00.000-08:002008-01-21T11:38:00.000-08:00Each person/parent/family does the best they can i...Each person/parent/family does the best they can in light of their circumstances and situation. Knowing yourself, your family, and what you want for your daughter that you spent 5 years, thousands of dollars, and travel 1/2 way around to embrace into your lives is STRENGTH beyond anything anyone else can know. YOUR choices are the best for you and your family and that is 3 kissing faces in your Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10857906163656661888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16570054.post-16525560504104853812008-01-20T16:00:00.000-08:002008-01-20T16:00:00.000-08:00[sniff] Okay, now you guys are being TOO sweet to...[sniff] Okay, now you guys are being TOO sweet to me. :) And I love it. :)<BR/><BR/>And Jennifer, your thoughts absolutely DO matter. Thank you.Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04112717691155332450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16570054.post-85234235661696630462008-01-20T15:39:00.000-08:002008-01-20T15:39:00.000-08:00Well, I'm not a parent yet so I'm not sure my thou...Well, I'm not a parent yet so I'm not sure my thoughts matter. But...I'll add them...I think each person/family must decide for themselves what their family will look like. I don't find having just one child a limitation...if that were the case then my sister would be in that category as well and I see her as a fabulous mother. She's just a mom who only wants one child. <BR/>The glimpse you Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13635947557570166917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16570054.post-72173081535501610532008-01-20T14:25:00.000-08:002008-01-20T14:25:00.000-08:00I think it's a strength rather than a limitation t...I think it's a strength rather than a limitation to:<BR/><BR/>1. Know your OWN mind, and not cave into the social pressure to avoid being the mother of an "only child," like it's some form of abuse to raise a child without a sibling; and<BR/><BR/>2. Persevere with such resilience through IVF and the adoption process. <BR/><BR/>There is NOTHING, absolutely NOTHING, about any of your choices Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16570054.post-49115080365364081432008-01-20T11:53:00.000-08:002008-01-20T11:53:00.000-08:00My friend, who at the time was parenting one child...My friend, who at the time was parenting one child, was told by another mother (of two) that she saw parenting one child as a hobby.<BR/><BR/>My friend saw red. Who can blame her?<BR/><BR/>Everyone's parenting experience is different and special, whether it involves one or 17.<BR/><BR/>What do I see?<BR/><BR/>I see a strong, funny, thoughtful, multi-dimensional soul. And, a red- headed babe!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16570054.post-63747773449327612362008-01-20T10:24:00.000-08:002008-01-20T10:24:00.000-08:00I see a strong woman who will decide what she want...I see a strong woman who will decide what she wants to do, talk it over with the only other person who really should have a say, David, and try not to let her sensitive side get hurt by anyone else's second-guessing.<BR/><BR/>Best, GailAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16570054.post-36386883377020441912008-01-20T09:17:00.000-08:002008-01-20T09:17:00.000-08:00Thanks for your wise words, Readers. And your c...Thanks for your wise words, Readers. And your compassion! I guess my path to parenthood hasn't been conventional so far, so why feel pressured to take on convention now? ;)Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04112717691155332450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16570054.post-33107485131489772182008-01-19T23:16:00.000-08:002008-01-19T23:16:00.000-08:00Some people see one person hoisting the vase above...Some people see one person hoisting the vase above another's head to crash it down upon....<BR/><BR/>It has taken guts my friend, to know where your lines are and to darn well move the lines when you knew it was time to do so.<BR/><BR/>I commend you on knowing yourself well enough not to choose to take the chaos up a notch. I know myself well enough as well, but it is not greater courage or a Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16570054.post-40759790188180929122008-01-19T20:10:00.000-08:002008-01-19T20:10:00.000-08:00You know - being single - my plans were to return ...You know - being single - my plans were to return to China to have a sister for K and another daughter - but now that China - SLAMMED that door in my face - I sit back and think - do/did I wish "just a sister" or a sister that shared her unique heritage - and I think my mind was wrapped around the later...Since I can't clone myself yet-I believe our family is complete - one mom - one daughter andpark ithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13071922247298451903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16570054.post-20436486621904131192008-01-19T19:17:00.000-08:002008-01-19T19:17:00.000-08:00I see it as a perfectly valid choice. Not selfish,...I see it as a perfectly valid choice. Not selfish, or weak or whateverthehell. Isn't it better to KNOW what YOU want and what is best for YOUR FAMILY, than to have a second child because you're supposed to want to?Type (little) a aka Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18344395100374466233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16570054.post-66450111868306504652008-01-19T18:47:00.000-08:002008-01-19T18:47:00.000-08:00oh boy oh boy does this resonate with me. It doesn...oh boy oh boy does this resonate with me. It doesn't make you weak or anything else. It just means it is the right choice for YOUR family.<BR/><BR/>I never saw myself having only one child. But, hey, things don't always end up the way you once envisioned them once reality (and life) set in. <BR/><BR/>I, like you, have to admit I just don't really think I have the personality to parent more than Alleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00158345286546165294noreply@blogger.com